As a lot of my friends are turning 17, I've been thinking of all the things I would love to have known when I turned 16 so I could enjoy the next year of my life more.
Credit to Polly Vadaz and Signedalice.wordpress.com who gave me inspiration to do this post.
- First and most important - DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! There is always going to be those people who judge you, but who cares. School is meant to test you. All those people who take the mic out of the things you like aren't your friends and after year 11/Sixth form you never have to see them again, and you don't necessarily have to talk to them while you're still at school.
- You'll lose friends - and that's absolutely fine. You'll change and your friends will change and sometimes you won't be able to make each other happy anymore. It's not the end of the world, you'll make new friends who will obviously be better for you; but it's important to remember your friendship didn't fail, it was successful, it just had to stop - which leads nicely onto number 3.
- Make friends! For God sake stop hanging around with the same people and meet new amazing people. It's obviously nice to have a group of friends that'll always be there for you, but while you're young and while you're surrounded by all these weird and wonderful people you might as well take advantage of them - you'll meet people with different hobbies and passions and you can learn from them, they'll learn things from you and you'll be shaped into a more well rounded person who can appreciate other people's views.
- Party. Go outside. While you can, go out, drink and dance. You'll have more fun going out to party's than watching a film. In 20 years you might not have the time to go as often or be able to climb onto a table and dance, but in 20 years time you can still sit on a sofa and watch a film.
- Forget about love. At 16 you don't need to be in a relationship, you just need to surround yourself with the people you love. And I don't want to sound too cynical but at 16 you have no idea what it means to be 'in love' - I doubt 30 year olds really know what it means - so stop trying to find your 'true' love, you'll just be disappointed.
- Just do your work. We all know homework, tests and exams suck but tough, everybody has to do them, it's a part of life. In the long run you'll be grateful that you missed one of your favourite tv shows to get 90% in an exam.
- You don't know everything. Yes you're smart, yes you do know somethings, but not everything, so learn to shut up.
- Accept help. No matter how independent you are everybody needs help, so just be grateful there's somebody who cares enough to help you.
- Relax. You don't need to be busy 24/7. Take a Sunday off, forget about seeing your friends and have some 'me time'.
- Don't try and please everybody. Don't do something for somebody if it doesn't make you happy, don't let people use you, you're stronger than you think.
- Don't let your parents decide for you. It's much easier than you think. They don't always know what is best for you, so if they're forcing you to do something you don't want to do put your foot down. They're not in control of you, no matter how many times they say "you live under my roof, so you follow my rules".
- Do something! If there's something you don't like about your body do something about it. If you've fancied somebody for a while do something about it. Don't sit there and feel sorry for yourself.
- Be spontaneous! Whether that means kissing somebody or running into the sea, if you don't do it then and there you'll probably never do it.
- Don't regret anything. Every silly, stupid and bad thing you do makes you into a better person. Make mistakes. You'll look back the next day or in a year, and you'll be so happy you did it.
- Bad things happen. Whether you have to move school, or there's a family crisis you'll have to go through bad things, but they can be made easier if you confide in friends.
- Everything will change. It's just something you're going to have to deal with, don't try and stop it from happening.
Well that's that. There are still loads of things I don't know about life and how to grow up but I guess I'll just have to figure things out for myself.
Love Daisy x
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